Knowing What Not to Say

‘A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back.’

Proverbs 29:11

Honesty and good communication are the foundation stones for a healthy relationship. This is particularly so in marriage. But any good idea can be misused. For example, it’s honest to tell your spouse that you don’t like the way they cook. It’s honest for you to express anger over your spouse’s shortcomings. But honesty that does not have the best interest of the other person at heart is cruel, and a form of selfishness. This is especially so when the other person can’t do anything about it. Some couples, in their determination to share every thought and opinion, destroy the sweet spark of romance that drew them together. No longer is there any sense of magic. They’ve unravelled the romantic allure that first attracted them to one another. Your spouse is the person you chose to marry. So if you didn’t do your homework up front, don’t complain when you don’t like the test results. Peter writes, ‘Continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins’ (1 Peter 4:8 NLT). Paul writes: ‘Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance’ (1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NLT). When you practise these virtues, you can help improve your marriage.

2 Chron 21-22, Acts 25 (To follow if you want to read the bible in 1 year)


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Amen! Special advice for married people :-)

Looking at the rate of divorce nowadays, you'll agree with me that something is wrong, some foundational principles are ignored.Starts as far back as home training, it's only the fear of of God and good home training that can produce marriage materials (men and women) which parent has time nowadays to look into their children's life?

That's right Ozoemena, very well said!

Yes,really. The problem is with the orientation of the marriage materials

True.Very true. It's really hard these days, takes the grace of God to find